Becoming My Bitch

Post #1: Becoming my Bitch

One of my very first kinky memories is of myself as a child consensually tying up one of my best friends naked. I remember how natural it felt and how comfortable we were. This wasn’t the first time we incorporated other materials into our sexual explorations, but it was the first time we tried bondage. At the time I didn’t have any idea of what I was doing. All I knew was that we both enjoyed ourselves and that it felt different than anything else we had tried before. This experience was my first contact with kink and it set a precedence for the rest of my sexual life.

At the age of 20, I met M, a charismatic queer black girl. Just like me she had a taste for everything other than vanilla. One day, after one of our usual deeply detailed talks about our sex lives she asked me a question:

”Have you heard of Darkside?”

Darkside is a Scandinavian BDSM forum. The next day I made an account, and a couple weeks later I met my first play partner D. This time I decided to explore my submissive side. D was older than me, experienced and took his role as dominant very seriously. D taught me the fundamentals of BDSM in a risk-aware consensual way. But our relationship didn’t last very long. I would pick, pry and poke at D, I drove him crazy. I was an annoying sub topping from the bottom. After some time we stopped meeting and I realised I should stick to exploring my dominant side.

I had so much fun exploring dominance in my twenties. I loved intimidating men, dissecting their psyche and relinquishing them of power. My favourite thing of all was to meet unsuspecting vanilla men on tinder dates. My goal for these dates was to see how much I could get them to submit to me. To be honest, I did not meet one man that wasn’t interested in becoming my bitch for the night.

These unconventional kinky dates allowed me to explore my dominance in a playful and unpretentious way. There were no elaborate scenes planned, just improvised exchanges of power and trust for the unknown. A lot of these men continued to explore BDSM after meeting me. I still get contacted by a couple of them, updating me on how their practice is going. These meetings were fundamental in forming my dominance. I gained confidence in my role as a dominatrix and learned how much I love to prey.

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