Post #11: The Servant
When thinking of BDSM it feels like most people think of the dom/slave dynamic. Which isn’t odd seeing as it’s a dynamic that is common in the scene. As a black dominatrix the idea of having a slave has always felt a bit off for me. I can’t help but to think of my ancestors who once were enslaved under colonialism. But kink is filled with taboos, and it is the taboo of the kink that makes it intriguing. There are a bunch of taboos I enjoy indulging in and I wouldn’t have it any other way. But I do believe in navigating these taboos in an informed way. So I’m not against the existence of the slave dynamic, if anything there’s some interest for it.
In my blog post #8 I talk about wanting a service cuck. Someone to do my chores at home whilst I do whatever I want. From work to fucking and everything in between. When imagining even further how this sub would be, I realise they take the form of a silent servant. The servant is similar to the slave in a way, one of the differences is that a servant gets to eventually clock-out. When imagining my servant, I imagine high-protocol service and absolute obedience. I see a contract being made and rigorous training in order to make sure they know how to serve me to a T.
They would be educated in how to clean my home, cook my favourite food, do my laundry. They would run my errands and check in to see I have whatever I need, an expert of myself and my needs. I imagine bringing them to shopping trips, events or wherever I might need an extra hand. I imagine them being invisible, only appearing to step in for my needs. They would hold my bags, jacket, drinks and the likes. They would scrub my boots, lick them clean, be my table or even my seat. Like a shadow they would follow me around, discrete and anonymous. Then I’d bring them home after a long day of being locked up, tie up their arms and clean them up.
I see my servant as a companion who is deeply objectified and rarely sexualised, but every so often I might share with them a bit of intimacy.
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